Wedding Vows

The officiating/solemnizing officer is no longer the one who is solely in charge of the vows.  Most couples prefer, if not encouraged, to write their own wedding vows to make them more personal and heart felt.  If you are one of those people who have a hard time putting their thoughts into words, you might want to look into seeking help in writing your vows.

Here are some of the tips that will come in handy when you are writing your personal wedding vows:

Keep it simple.  No one expects you to be as eloquent as world renowned poet when you say your vows out loud so you can just write whatever you feel.  Simple words are enough so no need to scour for a dictionary to look for complex terms to impress the guests with.  Remember that your partner knows you more than anyone does so it is better that they feel your sincerity.  Mind your grammar though.  You are not there to impress anyone but try not to embarrass yourself either.

Keep it short. It might be your special day but you certainly would not want guests rolling their eyes because you are taking too long with your vows.  10-15 short sentences will be sufficient so try not to go beyond that.  Remember, it is your wedding and not a public reading of the Mahabharata.

Get it straight from the heart. Wedding vows are like the glue of the whole ceremony.  Make sure that your words are coming straight from your heart and only make promises that you know you can keep.  If you promised your husband/wife that you will be an excellent baker, you should very well make a cake every weekend.

When it comes to saying your wedding vows out loud, you might hit that point where you feel like bursting out in tears because you are overwhelmed.  While it is acceptable that you shed tears, it would be inappropriate if you start wailing like a little child in the toy section of a shopping mall.  Always keep your emotions in check, especially for the brides who are at risk of running mascara.

Do not be afraid of getting emotional, just do not go overboard.  After all, it is a wedding, not a wake.  There will still be certain expectations of propriety that you need to adhere to, notwithstanding the fact that it is your day.

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