When You Need to Call off The Wedding

You know you’re not getting cold feet because now you have decided that the wedding (and the marriage even before it starts), is finally not pushing through. Through all the preparations, you have finally realized that this wedding is not something you would want in the long haul (or maybe just not with him).

While everyone may be emotional right now, realize that there are things that you can do to make it a soft blow (well, just a little bit).

• Be steadfast. People around you may try to talk you out of it and make you change your mind. However, this is not the point to be swayed and confuse everyone and make them doubt over again. Make it clear to them that your intention is not to hurt anyone but rather, it is something that will all work out for the best.
• After letting your mind work, make your heart be ready for some emotional rollercoaster. While you may be all settled with your decision, know that the people around you, especially your fiancée, is feeling all intense emotions, including hurt and embarrassment. No matter what reason you may have, those are things he will be unwilling to accept in the coming weeks (or months), and how he deals with it – whether negatively or positively, is something you should come to terms with. He may also not be able to take care of himself so it is best to leave him grieving for a while.
• Know that not everyone will understand and take things lightly. Some may not fell all the better about your decision but still thank them and acknowledge that whatever it is they are thinking is not something you can control.
• It will be costly on your part to cancel the wedding. The emotional burden may be too great already that you need not put additional financial burden to your fiancée or his family.
• You should be the one who will cancel all reservations. Do not expect cooperation or support at this point from your fiancée in cancelling all reservation. Spare him the humiliation he will feel and also by doing this yourself, you can reassure everyone that you are decided in doing this and that there will be no turning back.

What’s most important in this situation is that you are able to handle yourself maturely and that no immaturity takes place. Remember that as decided as you were when you were planning everything about the wedding, certain things come into play that calling the wedding off becomes more crucial and significant.
As things may already be clear to you, know that emotions, finances and people will come into place and you must know how to handle them well.

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